22 Jul ADHD and Perfectionism
Cornerstone Protection
836 Euclid Avenue Suite 16, Lexington
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One of the most painless experiences I've had. They came on time and was over the moon professional with still keeping a level of personability to it. The gentleman also went out of his way to say that my husband and Mines business … More was appreciated. Which is actually rare to be appreciated by such a great company. So thank you and we look forward to continuing services with this company.
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I am so happy we decided to go with cornerstone. They were quick and efficient. Shannon and the installer we very friendly. We got a lot of equipment and it was still within our budget. 10/10 would definitely recommend! Thank you
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Love the customer service and Shanon and his team go above and beyond for my restaurant. Couldn't of asked for a better security system and level of service that his team provides.
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We had a very positive experience with Alissa as a tutor for our pod of 5th grade boys from January - June 2020. She cared a lot about the boys and worked hard to create meaningful activities for them. The pod experience was invaluable … More for all of our families during a difficult year and we were so grateful to have found this partnership! We also want to appreciate Craig for helping to match us with a tutor on very short notice after we had cycled through a few folks who were not able to see the commitment through. Thanks for sticking with us!
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Dusty was the exact person we needed to help our child finish out the school year. So grateful to him for the way he steadily encouraged her and helped her stay on track and organized. He is flexible, responsive to our needs/schedule as … More a family, and a delight to be with. We are also thankful that Craig at Themba Tutors really "gets it" and partnered us with such a wonderful tutor who was a great fit for our girl.
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My child worked with Gillian D virtually for math enrichment. She is an excellent teacher. She took time to understand my child's specific learning style and provided tools that would be engaging. She was kind and empathetic- really … More made it her goal to connect with my child and build trust and rapport. My child started the school year with confidence and without the typically "brain-drain" that occurs over the summer, thanks to Gillian.
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I am going into my second year as a Themba tutor. I have met so many great individuals while working for this company. Craig and the rest of the Themba team do such an excellent job picking and choosing Themba tutors that suit each client's … More individual needs! I look forward to meeting new tutors and clients in the 2021-2022 school year!
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Our son started in a new high school, 100% remote, and was really struggling with Latin and Physics. I found Themba Tudors online and had an initial call with Craig, who was very knowledgeable, responsive, and found 2 amazing tutors for … More us. Both the Latin and the physics tutors were fantastic, connected with my son really well and helped him go from 'failing' grade to 'honors'! I will for sure continue using (and recommending!) Themba Tutors. Thank you, C, K, and W!
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Brian is a fantastic executive functioning coach. Super helpful, flexible with hours, and tailored the experience to our needs.
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Giulia Mercuri is a great Italian tutor! She was very responsive and accessible. Giulia put a ton of effort into preparing for each session and really helped our son with test preparation and projects. We are grateful that she was able … More to help, especially since our son did not receive any live teaching during COVID. We are happy that she was referred to us! -
As an adult student diagnosed with a learning disability during grad school, I knew I needed help dealing with my Master's program's demanding workload. I was seriously considering dropping out when I was referred to Themba Tutors. … More I was paired up with a wonderful tutor, Julie, who was a total lifesaver. I learned many techniques that I can utilize in the future as I embark on the next phase of my career.
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We were introduced to a wonderful tutor: Mcedwyn. He and our son, a freshman in college, worked well together. As a result, our son’s grades significantly improved. The tutor taught our son subject content and various methods to effectively … More study for quizzes and exams. Our son was also taught time management and organization. My son’s experience with the tutor made the first year of college a less intimidating experience. -
We have been with our tutor, Cailin Schiller, for two years, from 5th - 7th grade. She started as an executive functioning tutor with my daughter. From the start, she demonstrated a depth of expertise and a selective use of techniques skillfully … More adapted to my daughter’s ADHD and Math disability. Cailin made Math accessible and understandable to her in a way that even her teachers had not been able to do. She differentiated reading, writing and math tasks and assignments to tailor them to my daughter’s unique learning differences. Not only did it have an effect on her grades and her work efficiency, but she finally could do her work with less anxiety. Even my daughter’s teachers used Cailin’s guidance to modify their work with her. But most importantly, she became my daughter’s favorite resource. I can’t say how invaluable Cailin has been to my daughter’s progress and well-being. I’d recommend her a million times over. She is a gem. -
Victoria is a superb tutor. She helped my high school age daughter with her writing. Victoria's skills as a tutor, as well as her sense of humor and her engaging personality went a long way with my daughter. -
Themba Tutors provided a leaning specialist that was a perfect fit for my daughter. I told them what we were looking for and they delivered. Our tutor is responsive and flexible and makes it easy for my daughter to reach out to her own … More her own, which gives her an added sense of responsibility over her learning. As a therapist myself, I now regularly recommend Themba to my patients. A much needed and well provided service to the community!! -
The tutors at Themba are fantastic! Caitlyn McNeill helped our son academically, but also with getting organized in every subject, which he so desperately needed. She offered great advice and useful strategies that helped our son become … More a more successful student. We are using Themba tutors again this year for our daughter. We're so happy to have been referred to them! -
I'm so glad we were referred to Themba Tutors. After a great initial conversation to learn our needs, we were connected with an excellent tutor, Felicia, who is helping our high school daughter learn better organizational and executive … More skills. Highly recommended. -
We had a wonderful experience with our tutor Micaela. She helped our son not only academically but at every level. We will be forever grateful to have her in our lives. -
The tutors at Themba are fantastic! Caitlyn McNeill helped our son academically, but also with getting organized in every subject, which he so desperately needed. She offered great advice and useful strategies that helped our son become … More a more successful student. We are using Themba tutors again this year for our daughter. We're so happy to have been referred to them!
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Paul Smith at Themba has been an exceptional tutor for my son, both in terms of teaching the subject matter and teaching how best to approach the process of learning math and executing assignments. We feel very fortunate to be working with … More Paul. -
We were very lucky to have found Edwouine Swift, my son's therapist through Themba Tutors. Thomas is 12 years old, and it is extremely difficult to get him to write. Edwouine just works her magic with him, he adores her and is so … More eager to follow her guidance. I have no doubt she will be a positive driving force in his academic future.
4 ADHD SYMPTOMS THAT LEAD TO PERFECTIONISM
(with coping strategies)
ADHD and Perfectionism
Setting high standards can be natural if you are serious about your work or studies. But perfectionism is on another level, leaving no room for flaws. Being a perfectionist isn’t only for people with ADHD; they are more likely to experience it.
It may not look like a problem. However, perfectionism comes with many cons. The desire to be perfect at everything can impact the mental health of an individual with ADHD. Some negative side effects include self-criticism, frustration, and anxiety. If your child has ADHD, their tendency toward boredom and zoning out probably isn’t due to laziness or lack of interest. Learn more about the ADHD-boredom connection and tips to help your child stay on task.
So what can cause a person with ADHD to become a perfectionist? To fully understand the drive behind it, we must go through all the symptoms and signs of ADHD.
1. Hyperfocus
Focusing intensely on a task for a long period can be tiresome.
An individual with ADHD can become completely absorbed in their work. On the surface, it is the perfect way to get the job done. But concentrating on something for too long also impacts the decision to know when to stop.
Apart from that, paying attention to everything is exhausting. Consistently going back and forth over elements in a task can lead to more revisions. A person with ADHD needs to understand that hyperfocus may not be the best way to complete work.
2. Impulsivity
On the other hand, rushing tasks isn’t good for chasing away perfectionism.
Knowing when to stop is critical. As mentioned earlier, hyperfocus can lead to perfectionism. But a person with ADHD can also be prone to impulsivity – making quick decisions. It can manifest itself in a manner that critically diminishes the individual’s self-esteem.
A person with ADHD can suffer from frustration and dissatisfaction as a result. Rushing through tasks and struggling with giving immediate responses are two major signs of impulsive behavior.
Stressful feelings can form a pattern. The individual may completely refrain from the task thinking they aren’t perfect. They may begin to assume whether the effort is worthwhile if they aren’t good at it. So maintaining a balance of the pace of work is necessary not to spend just the right time on a task.
3. Fear of Failure
Criticism and failure can be hurtful.
People with ADHD can be prone to receiving repeated setbacks. They always try to give their best shot but may not always get the result they expect. On top of that, they can also bring negative feedback and criticism regarding their difficulties with organization and time management.
So, individuals with ADHD can become harsh on themselves. They can develop high expectations and perfectionistic tendencies. They can use it as a defense mechanism to protect themselves from potential judgment and chase away the fear of failure.
4. Emotional Impact
Overwhelming emotions can take a toll on the individual’s perspective.
A person with ADHD can struggle with many symptoms. People around the individual must offer the support they need. Stress, anxiety, and not feeling good enough are some of the few emotions people with ADHD have to deal with.
The pressure to meet unrealistic expectations can significantly affect the individual. Therefore, the person must learn to regulate emotions and other coping strategies.
Treatment and Coping Strategies for Perfectionism
ADHD can look and feel different for every individual. At its core, though, perfectionistic tendencies can be present. Addressing them takes a comprehensive approach that may include the following strategies:
- Challenging perfectionistic thoughts
- Learning to set realistic expectations
- Prioritizing tasks and breaking them down into chunks
- Practicing self-care and compassion
- Developing time management skills
It’s also advised to seek support from therapists, counselors, or ADHD coaches. The professional can help recognize symptoms and their severity better. They can also help develop a plan specifically for the person with ADHD. Sometimes, an individual may also need medication to manage ADHD symptoms.
Recap: ADHD and Perfectionism
People with ADHD can be more prone to perfectionism. Dealing with hyperfocus, impulsivity, fear of failure, and overwhelming emotions is common for individuals with ADHD. With the help of professional and social support, they can overcome their unrealistic expectations and pick up emotional regulation.
Remember: A little bit of kindness and empathy goes a long way! Always remind them and give them a pat on the back for giving their best shot!
Craig Selinger
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